Gen X’s Grand Disappointment
Much discussion has been made of issues within the aging Baby Boomer and enigmatic Millenial populations. Far less has focused on the cloud of discontent hovering above Gen X heterosexual couples....
View ArticleToss What You (Think) You Know About Couples Therapy
Good relationships literally make us healthy. So why, as a culture that celebrates being the best at everything, do we turn our noses up at getting help to make them better? Several years ago, before I...
View ArticleBroken Contracts
In every relationship, implicit contracts form very early on and in a mostly unconscious way. These contracts go on to dictate the overall dynamics of the relationship, but if you don’t know you’re in...
View ArticleYour Partner Was Designed to Push Your Buttons
There are days when it feels like your partner can aggravate and upset you in a way no one else on earth can. The fact is, that’s probably true…but there’s a reason for it. “Sometimes I feel like your...
View ArticleThe Double-Bind of American Coupledom – Part I
In my couples therapy work, one of the most important tasks is to let my clients know that their relationship problems are not only of their own doing. Our culture is working against relationships....
View ArticleThe Double-Bind of American Coupledom – Part II
You are not imagining the things that seem to be working against you and your relationship. The stats have your back on this. What do we do? Rebel! Part Two – The ShiftIn part one of this blog series,...
View ArticleHow to Deal with Stress in a Relationship
When you and your partner manage stress differently, it can be extremely challenging. Here are some tips for handling those differences without being at each other’s throats. Do you manage your stress...
View ArticleIs Couples Therapy Worth It?
What Really Happens During Couples CounselingCouples therapy gets a bad rap. People often see it as a sign that you are one step away from a breakup or divorce. It can also feel mysterious and...
View ArticleWhat is Post-Pandemic Pressure and How Do You Manage It?
In this video, I explain PPP – Post Pandemic Pressure. PPP’s origins make a ton of sense. As we move out of survival mode and back into and thriving, it is understandable that the paused things in our...
View ArticleWhat Is Intentional Separation, and Is It Right for Us?
There are many creative ways people “do” relationships, and I am so here for it. I looooove a creative approach! Generally, however, society offers mostly binary options for your relationship status...
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